What is parental alienation?
Parental alienation occurs when a child becomes estranged from one parent as a consequence of manipulation by the other parent. This manipulation may be deliberate and unjustified but in some instances it can also be unintentional. The term ‘parental alienation syndrome’ is also sometimes used.
There are many different reasons why parental alienation can happen, but in all cases, the practical and emotional consequences can be very hard to bear.
What are the signs of parental alienation syndrome?
Parental alienation syndrome can be quite easy to spot, particularly when the signs are consistent. It usually occurs to the parent that the child doesn’t primarily live with (the ‘non-resident parent’). Some typical examples of parental alienation syndrome signs include:
- Contact with the child being cancelled or refused
- The child’s communication with one parent is entirely controlled by the other parent
- The child becoming withdrawn/distant from their parent for no particular reason
- The child becoming hostile toward the parent’s family and friends
- The child displays negative views towards the parent
- The child siding with one parent no matter what happens
- The child repeating the other parent’s words, even when they are unaware of the meaning
- Making untrue allegations about the parent
Is parental alienation a crime?
While many people argue that it should be a crime, recognised as a form of child abuse, parental alienation is not considered a crime in England and Wales, unlike it is in many other countries.
What can be done about parental alienation?
If you are facing parental alienation from your child’s other parent, the first step you should take in an attempt to prevent matters from escalating further is to contact a professional who can provide legal advice on your position and what should be done.
Some parental alienation situations may need immediate assistance, particularly where there could be a safeguarding issue. It is possible to make an urgent application to the court, which will make a final decision based on facts and evidence. When the court makes a decision concerning parental alienation, it will always be based on the best interest of the child – their welfare will be prioritised above all else.
Depending on the severity of the situation, the court may feel inclined to take a different approach to solve the problem. This could be by placing the child into the non-resident parent’s care primarily.
How can parental alienation be proved?
Unfortunately, parental alienation can be extremely difficult to prove, but this doesn’t mean that it is impossible. Should the parental alienation issue require court proceedings for a resolution, a psychologist may be appointed to assess the child and the parents, both separately and together. Their assessment of the matter will be presented to the court and contribute to the final decision.